Relationship Reviews or audits are a great way to bring your relationship front and centre where it belongs. Whether you are starting out on your journey together or have been a couple for many years, having regular reviews of your relationship can help you both to remain connected, achieve shared goals and enjoy life together.
Bringing your relationship into focus can also highlight areas for improvement, challenge resentments that can build up over time, and plan for a successful future together. Click here for more information about how counselling can help.
Keeping communication open by spending time talking and listening can help reduce stress and anxiety in your relationship. Click here for 10 ways to become a better listener in your relationship.
During your review, start by highlighting the positives, take turns speaking and listening, avoid interrupting, and summarise at the end to show you value their input.
Here are some helpful questions to ask each other:
1 - What do you appreciate or admire about me?
2 - Do you feel content or satisfied, and are your needs being met?
3 - Are you happy with the way we divide household roles and responsibilities?
4 - Are you happy with the frequency and quality of our sexual relationship?
5 - How is our friendship? Are you happy with the quality of our emotional and intellectual intimacy?
6 - Is there anything that is holding you back from achieving your goals within our relationship?
7 - Is there anything I’ve stopped doing that you used to like?
8 - Is there anything I do that you'd like me to change?
9 - What’s something specific I can do this week to help you feel loved or supported?
10 - Do we have any emotional wounds that still need help resolving and healing?
When addressing the questions above, you might wonder 'why am I not feeling satisfied?' or 'why do I feel disconnected from my partner?' It's important to reflect on each other's needs and assess if they are being fulfilled.
When discussing, explore areas for improvement. Be honest and open to constructive feedback. Listen, empathise, and be gentle when sharing suggestions. Focus on actionable solutions to enhance your connection.
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